Tuesday, November 16, 2010

My Sick Weekend

Hi RJ,

Your first full weekend at home and your Dad got sick. You will never remember this, but I am sure between my constant coughing, raspy voice, and my mask over my face so I would not infect you, you must have been thinking what is up with this guy. "Dad you are embarassing me already"

Ok, so you are probably not that advanced in thinking yet. We like to make up little stories about what is going through that mind of yours because we have no idea.

I missed being and doing things with you this weekend. I even missed changing diapers, who would have thunk it. (don't tell mommy, she may want me to do it all the time) and by the way, the one you gave me tonight was lethal man. Not sure how something that goes in your system as white and odorless, came out green and with such stink. PS Waiting til I had you all cleaned up and putting the desitin on, to push more poop out, nicely played my friend. Let's not do that again shall we? Anyway you darn near killed me tonight with that one, hadn't seen one like that before and was not prepared.

What I missed most and will always miss most from you at this age as you get older, the feedings. RJ, you act like you have never had anything to eat in your life and you are not sure when you will be able to again. The most precious thing is when your lips finally find the nipple of the bottle, how you force your head into it like it is life or death, then afterwards that look of contenment, like ahhh, that is all I need in my life to make me happy. I will miss the sounds, the little coos, the little grunts. I will miss the way you turn and look at me when I am trying to burp you as if to say Ok dad enough of this, give me more food. But also sometimes how content you just get by me patting your back or rubbing your back. They say babies find burping soothing, not quite sure how, maybe one day you can tell me. Maybe not.

Little things I will take with me as you grow up. Part of me wishes you could stay this way forever, (minus the waking up every 4 hours and changing diapers). Part of me can't wait til your old enough to go out in the yard and throw the ball around with me.

One thing I will try not to do, is to speed you up or slow you down. I want to enjoy each day as it comes, watching you grow up and learn new things.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Week 1 Almost Done

Well RJ, tomorrow will be a week since we brought you home from the hospital. It is not a coincidence that I haven't written since the first night you came home. You have been keeping your mom and me awake at night and running around wondering how to make things better for you. You have met so many friends and family. You have brought so much joy to so many people. People have been so generous and can not do enough for baby RJ.

Everyday, we are seeing you do some new things. You have no problem letting us know when you don't like something, even it is something we do for your own good. Every day you keep your eyes open a little bit more than the day before. You are trying so hard to learn how to control that neck and head of yours. You have found your mouth with your hands, you have found your ears, and you have no idea yet how much those fingernails of yours hurt.

I can not wait for all the 'firsts' you have yet to do or experience in your life.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

First official Day of RJ at home

RJ was a complete angel to be around, and brought us lots of joy already. RJ met many of his neighbors, met his aunt Sharon and soon to be Uncle Frank, met his Grammy, Uncle Rob and Aunt Dianna.

We are all exhausted but thrilled to have this blessing in our life.

Daddy and RJ had lots of bonding time, maybe tomorrow I conquer diapers. Maybe.

Welcome home RJ.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Putting Stuff Together

Tonight will be a short but sweet/bittersweet post.

RJ, tonight I put together your first official toy. It is a chair that will rock you and hopefully calm, soothe and relax you as well as entertain you in your early development.

You will never probably realize this until you are much older. I am not good at putting stuff together. This kind of stuff to this point in my life, has been the bane of my existance. I pray that you will be better at this kind of thing than I am. You could not possibly understand what a curse/blessing this is for me. I hope that one day you will get the opportunity to do the same, I hope you will be better at than I am, and I hope one day you realize the love I put into trying to do this, no matter how bad I may be at it.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Rules for Life For RJ

Alright RJ, here is my rules for you, that I hope you will follow as you grow up and make your way in this world. It is probably a bit premature at this point, but I will keep reminding you during our late night feedings together.

1) You can be whatever you want to be. There are some limitations. If you could be a fan of all Philly sports, that would be much appreciated. But here are some things you need to avoid being.
    a) Republican, (we will discuss this further when you get older)
    b) a Dallas  Cowboy Fan
    c) a New York Met Fan
    d) A New York Giant Fan
Other sports teams maybe added as we go along, but these are the ones you definately need to avoid. Would add the Yankees on there, but your grandfather was a Yankee fan, so we can talk about that

2) Never let anyone tell you that you can not achieve your dreams and goals.

3) Find your passions, find what you really enjoy and make a career out of it. It is so important to enjoy what you do

4) Never be out hustled, never give less than all you have to give.

5) Don't let negative people bring you down. If someone is negative, walk away, they are not worth your time. Surround yourself with positive energy. The mind is a very powerful thing. Learn how to make it work for you.

6) Take care of yourself. You will live longer than you may think. Don't take after your father with your eating habits, don't get hooked on soda. Eat and drink healthfully. Drink lots of water.

7) Be active. I hope you enjoy playing sports as much as I did when I was younger, If not,
 that is ok, just be active, don't sit around and watch the world go by.

8) I hope you enjoy music as much as I do. Listen to what each insturment is doing, listen to the lyrics. Good songs are also usually poetic.

Alright, I am running out of stuff for now. This is a good foundation to build on.

We are anxiously awaiting your arrival back home. Get strong, stay strong.

Upon Further Review......

My dates were off by a day. I apologize, I actually had to ask someone today what day of the week it is. I am walking around in a fog.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Ok Lets Try This.....

So in this world of blogging, I thought it would be kind of cool to keep a diary of my life with my new son. I am hoping it will be something I can share with him as he gets older. Of course by the time he is old enough to read, blogs will probably obsolete but I will try it anyway.

So this is how we came to know our son. Friday October 30th, approx 1 pm, I recieved a call while out with our OP Bob, asking me could I come pick up a baby tonight. Things got stranger from there. We met with the birthparents on Sunday evening Nov 1st. Bobby and Nicole were wonderful people who just realize they couldn't give their son the kind of life he deserved. They met us, and believed RJ would have a wonderul home and family for the rest of his life. We are so blessed that they made that decision and that they have entrusted us with their child.

It wasn't quite easy as all that. We had to go to family court to clear some things up with the State Dept of Health. As of Monday Nov 2nd, we were appointed RJ's legal guardians and got to meet him, hold him and feed him on Monday Nov 2nd. The night before, RJ spiked a bit of fever so he needs to stay in the hospital a little bit longer. He has lots of new friends and family praying for him, and who can not wait to meet him.

RJ seemed to click right away with Diane and me and he was very calm and relaxed with us. He didn't eat well that morning, but made up for it that afternoon eating 2 and a half bottles in about 3 hours time.

November 3rd, election day not a good day for democrats but a pretty good day for RJ. He got to meet his Nana, his temperature was remaining close to normal and his appetite has stayed strong.

After two days here is what I know about my son.

He hates when he can't move his arms and legs freely, I can totally relate.
He likes to have a bottle in his mouth (hmmmm)
He likes to sleep and gets pretty upset if you disturb him (hmmmmm)
He has a bit of an Irish temper (hmmmm), he did not like has bath tonight, and he wasn't afraid to let everyone know about it. (hmmm am I vocal when I do not like something?)
Ok so far we have a lot in common.

We can't wait for RJ to come home with us. I am much more into this than I thought I would be. I am much more emotional than I ever thought I would be. I don't know if he will ever know how much it means to us to have him as a part of our family, but I intend to do my best to show him.

Welcome to this world Randy Joseph Corcoran, we intend to make this world as enjoyable as we can for you. You had a rough beginning to your life, and you are a tough little guy.