Wednesday, December 21, 2011


Quick post, but relevant to tonight and most days.

I severely understimated your charm. I never thought anyone could be so made and frustrated one second, and laughing and smiling the next. You do that frequently, and to me and your mom as well.

Tonight, and this is not rare, you wake up screaming bloody murder, we pick you up and comfort you, then the next minute you look at us and laugh and smile. As mad and frustrated as we maybe, that smile and laugh melts our heart and we can not help but smile and laugh in returne.

Friday, December 16, 2011

So Close......


You are starting to take you first steps, and soon you will be walking. A big deal for you, a bit scary for me. Don't get me wrong, I take a great deal of pride in you with every step you take. It is just amazing how big and smart you are becoming. Soon I will need to be running after you as you run away from me.

You are becoming quite the Mini-me. I took a drink and let out a refreshing "ahhhh" afterwards, that entire day, everytime you saw me take a drink, you echoed that "aaahhhh". Last Sunday we watched the Eagles Dolphins game together. Once the Eagles scored, I held your arms up and said touchdown, now everytime I say touchdown, you mimmick that and hold your hands over your head, just like the ref would.

Tonight, you me and your mom, spent one of those moments, that could never be planned or duplicated ever again. You were fighting us going to sleep, after about an hour, we were laying in bed, I was holding you, your mom was next to me. You looked at me and gave me one of your smiles that could melt the coldest heart, and one of your little ha ha's, I can't help but smile and laugh a little myself. That just encouraged you to laugh more, and before too long the three of us were in hysterics.

You are developing quite the personality. You love people, you know what you want, and are not happy when you do not get your way. All in all, you are such a happy (but a little stubborn) little boy. You are changing so much and learning so much every day.

Friday, December 9, 2011

So Big

Every day seems like something new these days. Every day you learn and do something different. In the last couple days, you have started to take your first steps. Still not quite there yet, but every day brings you ever so close. You are getting braver, able to cruise around the furniture with ease, every now and then letting go before ultimately falling on your butt.
You are laughing more at things we do. You immitate us when we make a sound or a face or a gesture. You clap your hands on demand, you do so big, and when I say "oh no", you put your hands on the side of your head.
You are all boy. You love to wrestle with me on the floor, you love to try to sneak up on me and lunge on me or try to crawl up my back. You don't go around anything, you try to go through, over, or under whichever is called for at the time. Tonight you pulled yourself up on back, I tried to ignore you, and you would have none of that. You kept trying to sneak around to catch my attention, before finally grabbing my face and turning it towards you. I can now say come and see daddy, and you will smile and crawl over towards me.
You want to explore everything, touch everything, know why and how everything happens. You do your best to let everyone know you are around and seem to make everyone smile when you smile.
Believe me when I tell you, fatherhood, and parenthood in general is not easy, it is hard, but moments like the ones I described make it all worthwhile.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

One Year Ago......

One year ago today, as it is officially November 6th, you came home with us. This year was a whirlwind, and you have turned our lives upside down. This time went by so quickly. You have developed quite the little personality already, and can charm the coldest heart. I said this before, and I will say it again, but you have brought so much joy into so many lives, I do not think you will ever be able to comprehend this.

So, what are you to these days. You love hats, you love when people wear hats. You love pulling them off people, you love trying to put them back on people. You have toys all over the floor, but nothing quite brings you the joy of when I put a hat on my head.

You have a very simple one sylable laugh of just ha, but it is infectous. If someone does not pay attention to you, you do your best to make them notice you. You are quite the ham and flirt.

You are pulling yourself up on all the furniture and have an eagle eye to find whatever you should not have. You love our laptop computers, remote controls and cell phones, and you never miss a chance to try to get at any of them.

You love walking by holding our fingers. As soon as you start walking, you give us that one sylable laugh that cracks us up.

You had your first Halloween and we took you trick or treating to our neighbors houses. They gave you candy, but we ate it on you. Sorry about that, you were too young for it. Mommy picked your costume, you will probably not be surprised to hear it was as a race car driver.

One year has gone by, you have changed so much, and you have changed us so much as well, for the better no doubt. You challenge me every day, to be better than I am, and you have no idea that you do that.

We could not ask for a more pleasant, happy little boy. You have completed our little family, and have been a blessing to everyone who knows you.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

September 11th

RJ, you were lucky enough not to be born yet on September 11th 2001. Your mom and I were just dating. It was a beautiful September morning. At the time I was working for American Computer Associates. The day started like any other day. I was on my way to Mahanoy Area High School to replace some hard drives in some of their schools computers. One of the teacher, Mr Whiteknight (sp?) told me that a plane had struck the World Trade Center. At first I thought it was a joke, when I saw it on TV, I thought it must have been some kind of human error on the part of the pilot. No one know any details yet of what was taking place.
The classroom I was on had the news coverage on TV and I watched in shock as another plane hit the 2nd tower. Ok, this is getting scary. Then they announced that the pentagon was hit, and another plane crashed in PA. I was realy scared, I did not know what was happening or what was going to happen next. It took me much longer than it should have to replace those hard drives as I could not take my eyes of the television. It was only the 2nd attack on American soil. It was frieghtening beyond what words can describe. That day there was so much uncertantity, so much confusion. Everything that day took me much longer than normal because I was in shock. I remember hanging out at work about an hour longer than normal just talking with my coworkers about what happened. I remember getting to talk to your mom and sharing our feelings about it all.
I hope you never have to experience that kind of feeling and insecurity in your lifetime.
What I hope you will get to experience, was the way the country united. It is a shame it took such a tragedy for everyone to come together as one. Since, there has become such a divide purely based on politics. I really hope that we can find that unity without another tragedy. When America is united, it is truly the best country in the world, when we want we can do whatever we want.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

What's New in the Life of RJ

Well RJ, on Sunday you officially started crawling, not quite getting your belly off the ground, but you are crawling using your belly and elbows. Also last week, you started giving 5 to people, some time more intentional than others. Today you also started trying to clap your hands, that still needs some work, but you are trying your hardest. One of the other biggest things I have noticed, is that when eating, you now know when to move your head when putting your bib on, and taking it off. It is the funnies thing, how you know exactly when, where and how to move your head to make it work. You are quite the wiggle worm lately, definately know what you want, how to get to it, and know to be upset when we don't let you have your way. You are also quite strong in body, will and mind.
In other words, you are the perfect 10 month old little boy, so strong, smart, and healthy. Tomorrow we go to the pediatrician to see exactly how much you have grown.
Again I will tell you RJ, you have no idea how much joy and happiness not only to your mother and me, but to our family and friends. You are one special little boy, special person. Do not forget that. You can have whatever you want in this life, as long as you work for it and keep the right attitude.
One last side story that made me smile. At Giant yesterday, two ladies came over to look at you, and made such a fuss over you. That is nothing new. As you and I were walking away, I overheard the one lady saying to the other, that you were going to be a heartbreaker when you grow up. That made me smile, as they said it, without realizing I could still hear it.
It is so hard to imagine our life now without you. You have brought so much to our family and our lives.

Saturday, July 30, 2011

First Vacation


In years future you will ask me why I didn't update this more often. I will answer you by saying, when you have a child of your own, you will know. I had many grand illusions about this blog and thought I would have a couple updates every week. As John Lennon once said "life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans"

So what is new with you. You are going from being a baby boy to a little boy faster than I realized. You are now 9 months and change, you are quite the little ham and a very happy little boy. As stressed as you make me sometime, I don't think we could have asked for a better little boy that what you have been. You are rolling over the place, and already have a nack for getting into what you shouldn't. I call you my geek baby as you are fascinated by wires, computers, remotes. Probably by the time you read this, computers will be obsolete and everything will be on your phone. That is already happening as I write this. You are so close to crawling, but right now your preferred method of travel is to roll, and boy can you roll.

Last week we went on our first family vacation. We went to Myrtle Beach South Carolina. You did very well on the trip, but an hour in, I was having my doubts as you had a meltdown outside of Harrisburg and you had me thinking, maybe this wasn't such a good idea. We stopped for a bit, you calmed down and did so well the rest of the way. We drove through Pennsylvania, Maryland, Virginia and part of North Carolina before stopping for the night.

The next day we got up and we went to visit your cousins near Raleigh. You met Michael, Karen, young Michael and Aisling. You enjoyed spending time there and were so happy. After that we drove for about 3 hours and ended up in Myrtle Beach.

We stayed with the Kentons as they asked us to spend vacation with them. We found out you are a little water baby. You loved the pool and even the ocean. You sat on the edge of the beach with me reaching for the waves as they came ashore. You just loved splashing around. Probably digested some things accidentally you shouldn't have, like salt water, chlorine water from the pool, and I think you even snuck some sand when we were not looking. You loved being with Brittany, Briana, and Kyle as they enjoyed playing with you as well.

On the way home we stoped to see Grammy and Grandpa's friends Larry and Norma. Like everyone, they fell in love with you as you were just as happy as you could be.

We are so lucky to have a baby so happy and tolerant as you. You slept in the car most of the trip and you really don't complain much about anything. I hope you keep that. Not just for my sake (selfishly) but for yours. Life is so much better with a positive attitude......a lesson I learned too late in life.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Our first father and son conversation (so to speak)

2/3/2011 was the first time we had a conversation, as much as we could at the age of 3 months.
I was giving you your bottle, you were done. You started cooing a bit, and you started making the OOOOO sound. I made it back mimicking you, and you gave me the biggest smile and repeated it again. We went on for probably less than a minute, but you would make a noise, I would mimick it, and you would smile and mimick it right back. It was one of the happiest moments of my life, and one of the few times, I really felt that we connected. I look forward to many more conversations between us, rather silly like today or more serious as you get older.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Little blog

A blog about the little things. As I was trying to sleep earlier, I started thinking about babies and their parents. I couldn't get a rhyme out of my head for some reason, maybe I heard it before, maybe I was creative, but I started thinking little people, little clothes, little fingers, little toes. Maybe I should be writing greeting cards. Maybe it is a lack of sleep. Who knows?
Anyway, today as I said started me thinking about the baby parent relationship. As parents, we give them a whole lot of love. We give them a whole lot of care. It sometimes seems like a thankless job, especially early on, there isn't a whole lot of interaction from the baby.
Then you get a little smile, you get a little something new everyday. You get a new trick that the baby does and it gives you such delight. We cheered like crazy when he rolled over from his tummy to his back. We laughed so hard we first saw that gummy smile. As parents we give alot, and get the little things in return. But those little things the baby gives you are huge for them, and huge for us as well.

Friday, January 7, 2011

New Year

eWelcome to 2011 RJ. You may notice it has been a while since I last posted. So long, even your Mom is asking when I will post again.

Truth is I have been kind of busy, with you. You don't seem to like for me to do anything that has nothing to do with you. Eating, showering, going to the bathroom, you seem to protest most of these. So may taking a few minutes to get some thoughts down about our life together have really been hard to come by.

Hopefully by the beginning of February you will officially be part of our family. Not that you aren't really a part of our family already. Seems hard to imagine what our life would be like without you now. You have brought so much joy to so many people. I never had an idea the people you would touch, by just being here with us. It is really mind boggling.

As I write this, I just finished giving you a bottle and I am listening to you rooch and moan and grunt a little through the monitor. You have become my best friend (next to your mom of course) and one of the most interesting people I know. I always know where I stand with you, I always know exactly how you feel. You can frustrate me one minute, than melt my heart the next. You can make me wanna cry than an instant make me laugh.

Fatherhood has been much more demanding and challenging than I had thought it would be, but I guess just being alive is more challenging and demanding than you could have imagined. Together though, I think we are getting through it alright togehter.

We will live through many more ups and downs together through the coming years. Just know, that I am doing the best I can for you, and doing what I think is best for you at all times.

Lets go over some of your highlights so far. You are rolling over from your tummy to your back, most say ahead of when you should. 6 times in a row in one day. I can see that Irish stubborness coming out in you already. And lets not talk about that Irish temper. When you want food, you want it now, no excuses. You are an amazingly strong little guy for your age, and your head control is pretty impressive. You are starting to smile and you know our voices. You also love music already (thank you) and some of our best times are falling asleep to bed time with the Beatles.

You have started to like your bath time, still not sure about having your face washed but that is getting better. You don't even yell too much when getting changed anymore.

I have to keep reminding myself, everything is brand new to you. It takes some getting used to for you. When you had your first shots (which you did very well) you made such a face when we gave you grape childrens tylenol. We were perplexed but than realized that was your first time tasting grape, of course it was going to seem weird when all you were used to was formula.

Every day through you, I am feeling like I am experiencing everything for the first time over and over again, and that is a pretty cool feeling.

Keep growing RJ, you are a very smart, strong, and determined little boy.